In this article, we will try to help you with some useful tips on how to manage anger in kids. Manage anger in kids is one of the crucial things when raising a child…
Managing anger nowadays is no longer only a problem limited to adults! Kids with suppressed anger can grow up to see it manifest in different ways – troubled family relationships, broken partnerships, and marriages, poor professional and social quality of life and more.
Usually, anger is the outcome of deep underlying fears, present due to some experience during the growing up years. Hence, it is important to get to the bottom of the problem and weed out the fear.
How to Manage Anger in Kids – Useful Ways
Toddlers or pre-school kids express anger by throwing tantrums, usually demanding attention and satisfaction. It is important to remain calm when dealing with tantrums and not give in or reward them if they promise to stop. It is important to hold your ground and ensure that discipline is respected and maintained.
In case of school going kids, it helps to develop a connection with them right from the beginning by staying updated about their experiences at school and with their friends, and ensure complete sharing of any and all of their concerns, fears and wants. At this age, most of the anger may be directed at the rules and discipline that they are expected to follow. It is important to ensure that the child respects them however it helps to be responsive to their thoughts, feelings, and desires while defining their limits and boundaries of the discipline.
It also helps to express yourself freely and encourage them to do the same. When they see the rationale behind your actions they may feel safer to open up and share what their deeper fears are, and a compromise can be reached. Again, lead by example by managing anger effectively yourself since they may challenge any actions that don’t seem coherent with your proclaimed beliefs. Also, define repercussions of crossing their limits clearly and inculcate a sense of responsibility.
Some parents reward the children if they maintain discipline and act accordingly. Though it may be useful in some cases, making a habit out of it may jeopardize their character in the long-term. Needless to say, it may also prove costly on the pocket, considering the demands kids make these days! Rewards in the form of appreciation and praise within the family, extended family and friends may be a useful option.
Other useful options may be to encourage them to maintain a journal, involve them in some creative activity like painting or dancing to work off any negative energy, encourage exercise and meditation to release any stress or learn some ways to vent out anger positively (catharsis) and educate them.
It helps to develop an emotionally open and safe atmosphere at home and encourage the honest expression of reasons for upset, fears and desires and set an example by doing so yourself.